Create a Checklist
Help your child to create a checklist for their locker. This means creating a separate list of items that they will need to get at each locker visit. If they go to their locker once in the morning, once in the afternoon, and once to pack up to leave school at the end of the day, then they will need three separate spots.
1. Start with the end goal: What is the date of the exam? What is your home improvement project finish date? 2. Make a list of tasks: Come up with a list of tasks needed to accomplish your goal. For exams, write a list of units or topics covered on the exam. Then make note of your study tools. For example, did the teacher provide a review sheet? Can you use the unit tests and quizzes to study? Can you use your study guides from each unit to prepare? 
The first thing that many parents try to do is rush in to fix the immediate need: go get the missing item. However, this usually is an inconvenience to the parent without being an inconvenience to the child. Think about it: the child gets their needs met without having to do much of anything except cry out for help. At the same time, mom or dad has to leave work, home, appointments, etc. to drive extra trips to drop off that item. While this solves the immediate need, it does not help solve the actual problem, and it does not encourage growth in the child. Instead, you can be supportive and acknowledge their feelings ("I can see that this is really hard for you.") without solving their problem for them ("I'm sorry that you forgot your homework, but I won't be able to go get it for you."). This may mean a late grade at school or a few tears. This is ok. The uncomfortable feeling that they have is how they learn, take responsibility for their own actions, and are motivated to change their behaviors.
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